REMINISCENCES ABOUT DAD

For his Seventy-Sixth Birthday

 

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One summer, a beautiful collie walked quietly onto our front yard.  She didn’t bark or make any sounds, even when we played with her.  She was very gentle and tame, but had no tags.  She didn’t leave and it got to be sundown.  So we made her up a bed on the back porch, in a big box.  Like most dogs in the summer, she wouldn’t stay in it and lie down, but after some coaxing she did.  We were hoping we could keep her.  Dad said we’d have to check the paper because a dog that nice would be sought by her owners.  She stayed one night, then the next.  Our hopes were rising and we thought it was pretty certain she was ours.  She seemed to get braver and we got her to bark a little bit.  One afternoon she was resting in her den and we were talking on the porch.  All of a sudden, Dad opened the back door and called, “Sally!”  The dog jumped up and went straight to him, very excited, her tail wagging.   It was quite a mixed moment.  The collie seemed overjoyed to hear her name, but it was curtains for our keeping this pretty dog.   That very day the owners came over and got her.   Boo hoo.  I think Dad would have let us keep her if she had not been claimed.  He also seemed sad to see her go.

 

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One of Dad’s enjoyments was watching the antics of Chuck Osborn on WIMA-TV when he would do the local ads.  He would start talking about lawn furniture, standing alone on a blank set, and all of a sudden a beach chair would come lobbing in at him and he would leap aside because the studio guys would darned near hit him with it.  He’d catch the chair, nonchalantly hold it up, talk about this fine quality chair from Rink’s Bargain City and then throw it back, as though this was the way people always behaved on TV.  He’d resume talking and pretty soon two loaves of Holsum Soft Twist Bread would fly at him.  He’d grab them and start talking and then a big 16-oz Coke would barrel in.  He would betray the minimum of nervousness but the station guys were obviously playing some kind of game of chicken and we got to be in on it.  You felt like you knew them.   Dad got quite a kick out of Chuck, and so did Mom and all of us.  Chuck was Dad’s patient.  Once, we saw him when we went to watch Betsy’s recital at Mrs. Russler’s Kindergarten. 

 

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Dad knew a lot of colorful people whose services he might call upon from time to time.    He brought over Wild Bill the Tree Man to transplant some saplings.  He had a black man who was from Alabama deliver logs in a big pickup; the man told me “Keep ‘em dry or they don’t BOIN good.”   Al Scrivener and his crew painted our house.   We would go visit Edna Schanzlen and she would give us little cuttings of coleus and begonia to start in a glass of water.  Once I played with her grandson, Tommy Reinzel, and I think Scott did, too.  He was a tougher kind of kid than I usually sought out but we got along okay and he introduced me to Luden’s cough drops. 

  Once I was interested in fuel cells and thought maybe I could make one for a science project.  Dad asked Fred Towner to come over from across the street and tell me about them.  This man was an electrical engineer at Westinghouse.  This was going to be great; I could hardly wait to get my battery to work!  Fred came into the lab; Dad introduced him and then departed.  Lucky Dad.  The introduction was the last I understood of Fred for the next hour.  Or was it eight hours?  It felt like it.  “This is the anode; this is the cathode,” he said.   Then, BOOM!  He just took off into some region of the atmosphere beyond gravity.  Like a lot of scientists, when asked a question he’d make his answer more confusing than what I asked about, and then would barge right on.  He left behind some articles which might as well have been written in Hindi.  I never did figure out how to build my fuel cell.  Just think what the Internet saves kids nowadays!

 

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Of course, Dad loved football and basketball games, and driving to and from in the car was half the fun.  Often we would take Dennis Burns with us. 

While riding to a Lima Senior basketball game, we were looking at the program and saw this one black guy, Leslie Saucer, who had one of those bad pictures you are always afraid they’ll print of you.  He face was all puckered up and Dennis and I said, “What happened to THIS guy?”  Then we started trying to imitate what we thought he would say in a caption:  “I don’t like dem LEMONS, deh!”  We started laughing and saying it back and forth.  Dad got mad and told us to stop and we didn’t.  Then he got REALLY mad. It was to his credit.  He didn’t like us mocking the honor of this black boy who was also a good athlete.  We managed to stop ourselves.  Later we put somebody up to getting Leslie’s autograph for us on a little square of paper.  Whenever we would see it, we’d start spasming with laughter again.    But not in front of Dad, of course.

Another time we were riding down to an Ohio State game and Dad had this book called “How Come? Sixty Enigmas”.  Mom would read some puzzling set of circumstances, usually criminal (EXAMPLE: somebody is found dead, hanging in his room with nothing in the two feet of space under his feet.  The door has been locked from the inside.  HOW COME?” ANSWER: the man had stood on a cake of dry ice)  You could only ask yes or no questions to get information from whomever had read the answer.  This could go on for hours till you figured out the solution. We loved it.  Of course, what Dennis and I and the others enjoyed most was that when we would read one of the riddles, the predictable words “HOW COME?” would always come up, and we would try to say it in the nuttiest way possible. 

I never saw Dad get more excited than at those OSU games.  He would yell and scream like a lunatic.  I guess that was the point.  We would look for Mike Currant, from Lima Senior.  I think there was also a guy named Tom Barrington from Shawnee or some such. 

 

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Our car was the scene for many comic moments.   When we were small, Dad would tell us stories that would always involve some kid or other’s getting scared and running away.  After suitable suspense and buildup, Dad would make the sound of the kid screaming and we would all just LAUGH!  Once in the car we all enjoyed a moment when Lyndon Johnson was being interviewed on the radio about nuclear wear and said don’t worry he wasn’t gonna mash on the button.    Another Southern moment happened when we made an endless search for the Oak Ridge Murrays in a downpour after Aunt Sudie had said to look for “Adder Drive”, which turned out to be “Outer Drive”.

 

 

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We had some great moments on  Kenilworth.   Dad once carried us down the stairs, one at a time, in a laundry bag with the wash, pretending not to know we were in there, then pouring us out on the floor.  I remember Cindy’s being poured out.  In those days, Dad called her “Little Sippy Sue”and “Pocahontas”.

Mom had an old tub washer and wringer, with a waste hose near a drain.  (I don’t think she had  a dryer; she would just hang the clean clothes up on a line to dry in the hot basement.)  One night Dad and Mom were up very late working on something and let us stay up.  I went down the basement to the washer that was making that friendly rumbling noise and saw all that good ice cream water coming out of the hose, and drank some.  It didn’t stay down long.

Dad got us a coke machine with two spigots.  It was kind of crude because you would just tilt the bottles up on some kind of lever to get the coke to pour out of a spout.  But we thought it was neat.

Sometimes on a lazy Sunday afternoon, Dad would play his classical LPs.  Boy, I hated those opera ones.  I even had some for my 45 rpm record player and it was all I could do to make myself hear them.  However, I liked to try to give all my records a regular playing.  I thought it was probably good for them.  Anyhow, I remember watching the flecks of dust falling in the rays of the sun coming in the front window.  With my glasses off, I could see those flecks clear as anything when they would float near my eyes.  On one slow day, Dad and everyone left the room for a long spell.  I thought it was time for the records, so I started pulling them out from the cupboard, pulling them out of their sleeves and skimming them over the floor.  After about ten records, they looked pretty good, all out there like a great big puzzle.  They were so colorful, with vinyl of different shades of red, blue and brown, and the big labels were all so unique.  Pretty soon, Dad came back in and my music abruptly ended. 

 

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On Cole Street, Dad kept a big collection of colognes that defied comprehension.  There were many large bottles, seemingly without labels.  One might display just a little glued-on insignia.  Now and then, Mom and I would tease Dad about all these bottles.  It seemed more like a druggist shelf than his aftershave shelf.   “Where do you GET all these?  Here, try this one – hmm, it smells like Lestoil!  Wait, here’s another one – this one’s Pine Sol.   Maybe there’s a Top Job in here!”  We would just LAUGH and Dad would look at us quietly as though we would never understand anyway.  We were amazed at his restraint.

Dad’s bathroom was the audio arena for many of his radio favorites, such as Don McNeil, The Grand Ole Opry, Karl Haas, Mike Warf, Renfro Valley Gathering, JP McCarthy and, the least favorite of the rest of us, Bud Guest.   Dad enjoyed the toned-down humor of the Don McNeil show and it probably gave him material suitable for entertaining his older patients.  There was an Aunt Edna or Aunt Maude or Eleanor or Fanny or somebody who was always out-of-date despite her best efforts.  She did some mildly funny scenes and would always tell a story about something she saw when she had been watching the ”T and V”.  Dad picked up the phrase and the rest has been history.

It seems we never could escape Bud Guest.  Even the morning after our sailing catastrophe on St. Mary’s, Mom and Dad were getting up breakfast on the Coleman and we were watching the lake.  Suddenly our tranquil thoughts were broken by the old familiar presence.   I can still hear the sound of old growly Bud Guest on the radio that sunny day, cutting through the quiet, talking about fishing or whatnot and trying to make something grand out of something that wasn’t.   Maybe I was just too young.

 

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We used to visit Dad’s office at all its stages of change.  For a while there was a drugstore next to it, before Dr. Chung came along.  In the earlier days of practice, Dad’s doctor friends would get together at one of their houses now and then to talk business, with families in tow.  The doctors would sit down in a circle, cross their legs, and light up.  Once we went to Fox’s and I remember Dr. Fox’s grabbing me as soon as I got inside and saying “Robin, ya look like a million bucks!”  At one of these meetings, another little kid about three or four was brought in to play with me on the floor.  He seemed kind of quiet but we got along all right.  I didn’t see him again for years.  He was Dennis Burns.

The lab in Dad’s office, like pharmacies themselves, was in those days much closer to basic chemistry.  There were a lot of reagents and indicators there.  About the only bottle I ever understood was the hydrogen peroxide.   Likewise, Matthews had a stock of many basic chemical compounds, things you would never find in a modern day pharmacy.  I could go and buy 6 ounces of copper sulfate or potassium permanganate (Betsy’s favorite chemical to tease me about was cobalt chloride), or a bottle of sulfuric acid.  Dad had a few acids at the office, too, I believe, especially hydrochloric, in some much-used, specific dilution.

Once WIMA Radio had a Medical Questions show and Dad was on the panel.  We on Cole were all listening attentively, of course.  Somebody called and asked how to treat a burn.  Dad said put ice on it.  They asked what does it do if you put butter on a burn?  Dad said, “Makes it slippery.”  We all looked at each other with a big smile and said, “That’s our dad, all right.”

 

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Once after dinner in the dining room, Dad sat down at the typewriter in a creative mood and began composing.  We were surprised at what a good typist he was.  He quickly wrote a funny impromptu story about a little frog.  We thought he would later write his memoirs.  He thought so, too.  Maybe he still will!  He might have been a little deterred because of the time he bought an autobiography he thought would HAVE to be great!  It was Chet Huntley’s life story and to say he needed an editor is an understatement.  He would repeat himself every few chapters and he had a way of putting quotes around expressions he thought were regionalisms that was just "downright” irritating.  Also, he would repeat himself sometimes.  It was just “plain terrible”!  Dad was underwhelmed by the book but I thought maybe he was just being too hard on poor old boring Chet.  Then I read it, too; it truly was awful. 

We should work on Dad to start on his stories.

 

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One day when I was in seventh grade, Dad brought me home from the office some guy’s workbook from high school chemistry.  I couldn’t believe my luck.   It smelled like a lab bench, like chemicals I wasn’t allowed to buy yet.     This was the Big Time!  Over the next few years, I worked through most of the book, carefully filling in the answers to all the problems and question sets.  I didn’t want to miss any of those important details.

 

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Once when we were in grade school, Dad had us taste beer in the front hall.  It didn’t seem to turn off the other kids, but I have always had a minor social gap in not liking beer.  It has never tasted any better to me than that first hideous dose.   I may pretend to drink some now and then, if that’s all my host has, but I hate it.

 

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After a big family dinner on Cole, there was always a very comfortable rhythm of conversation.  The ritual of seeing people off was particularly pleasant.   We would walk and talk into the vestibule, eventually making it one at a time onto the front porch, with its hanging lanterns shining at night.  The light at the end of the sidewalk would reassure that it was safe to go.  (Originally, we had a very old-fashioned lamp down there with a green painted iron pole and frosted glass.  Eventually it was replaced, but never eclipsed.)   The voices of Nana and Papa, and Uncle Ken, and all our cousins and their families, as they would depart, are still in my memory.  I can hear Nana’s laughter and her saying, “Oh, mercy!”, “Why, for pity’s sake!”, “Well, I should say!”, and, of course, her most versatile trademark, “Well!”   Sometimes Dad would walk the guests to the sidewalk to finish some grownup conversation we would leave them to.

 

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Once at Aunt Kap’s, Dad read us stories.  He read us “How the Sea Became Salt” and “The Blue Light”.  After that second story, I had a nightmare about a bluish light that would dribble down lethal electric current on anyone below.   I had this dream dozens of times for about 5 years.  Often it was followed by another one, where I was being pursued by Evil in a dark room full of big crates I’d have to climb.  I would feel I was being suffocated.  Then a third one that would come along had me having to argue down Satan.  Still, the stories were wonderful and we all wished we could hear them again.

 

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Dad always had a little frustrated nautical man in him.  He would get on the loudspeaker to the attic and say, “Now hear this! Now hear this!  Dinner is being served in the mess hall!”  He would always tape the Holiday in Harmony programs at Christmas and start out, “Now hear this!  Now here this!”  Then he would shine his little light on his program.  When he bought a boatswain’s pipe he was in seventh heaven. 

 

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Dad had a knack for picking out good presents, and some of them were truly magical.  The first I remember was a little dashboard and steering wheel, with a motor sound.  Then I got a robot with a blue light on top of its head that could magnetically pick up metal disks and put them on a moving conveyor belt.  Once I got a transistor radio for my birthday, and they’d hardly been on the market for any length of time.   (Once Papa borrowed it from me to listen to a ball game with the earphone in.  Boy, was I proud to have something HE wanted to try out for a change!)  When I was ten, I got a very beautiful dark red Spanish guitar.  One Christmas, I got an Ohaus chemical balance, lab stools and glassware.  Dad had a way of putting together a really good surprise when he put his mind to it.  And usually you could count on him to be cooking up another one for you between times.  His love always came across.

Once he got us all a ten-power telescope that we would use to look at the moon, especially in Canada.  Once we all went out on the front lawn to watch a lunar eclipse.   We also enjoyed the walkie-talkies he bought for use at the lake.

 

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These are all the reminiscences I have time to write today.  Here are some titles for other events you may remember:

 

1   Getting our Sabin Oral Vaccine

2   When Dad Brought the Latin Cards Home from Chicago

3   Rib Eye Steaks and Shrimp Cocktails at the Thunderbird

4   “Under the Rooftops of Chevrolet”

5   First Time at Chen’s Chinese Restaurant

6   Going to the Segovia Concert with Carl Steiger

7   Flying up to check out Kalamazoo College

8   The Lima Citizen and the Lima Star

9   Sally Stout

10             Waiting for Dad to Pay the Rent at Mrs. Wessel’s

11             The DeSoto, the Impala, and the other cars

12             Watching Dad Pack for His Trips

13             Poor Dad Can’t Swim Because of His Ear Drum

14             Joking with Reverend Trout after the Kennedy Inaugural Speech

15             What Happens to You if You Blow off Your Mattel Sonic Blaster in Your Brother’s Ear Right When Dad Walks By

16             “That Damned Opal!”

17             Studying the Hymnal

18             Learning to Mow the Grass

19             Bach’s Oboe Concerto

20             Letter to the UCC in Columbus

21             “Pilot to Co-Pilot”

22             When Scotty Went to the Wedding

23             Buying a Stereo with Dad

24             Dad’s Talk with the Chemistry Professor.

25             Paul Warner and the Ayn Rand Phase

 

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, DAD!

 

Our reminiscences of you will never end!

 

Love, Robb

 

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